Work With Me

Take the risk that will set you free.

Gamble on what’s best in you.

Come fully alive.

Be audacious.

We all harbor dreams of doing something totally audacious. But those dreams often simmer within us, merely making us restless, burning our eyes.

Sooner or later, we must choose:

Will you leave those dreams as they are— anemic images locked inside, known only to yourself?

Or will you blow on their embers till they burst, lighting up city and forest, earth and sky?

Dont just survive the storms of this tumultuous era… Use them as the springboard that plunges you onto your life’s most fulfilling adventure yet…

In our work together, my clients have made massive improvements in their Performance, Purpose and Legacy and see the following results:

  • Magnified income and net worth.
  • Growth in their relationships, and in their standing in their communities.
  • Blossoming love lives— more and better sex.
  • A deeper sense of purpose and resilience.
  • Greater concern for the collective— an increasing desire to serve
  • Clarity regarding the Legacy they wish to leave behind

Together we can forge that path for you too. Are you ready? Let’s go!

All men dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake up in the day to find that it was vanity. But the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible.” —T.E. Lawrence

How I Work

Coaching & Advising

Consistent mentorship and coaching calls initiate breakthroughs and then sustain them, ensuring powerful results over time.

In Person Immersions

Carving out several days especially for the work of transformation in a curated, one-on-one retreat is among the most significant gestures you can make for your personal development.

Transformational Journeys

The most potent work we will do together in finding wholeness.
A dive to the depths of your heart, mind, body and soul. This is the journey to discover and release your blocks and reveal what you don’t know that you don’t know.

Coaching & Advising

My work is an invitation to reveal your inner king, or inner queen. It is a call. A call to liberate yourself, to access your nobility.

Roam the palace of your life with authority and grace. Feel as at home in the banquet hall as you do in the treasury, the bedroom, the cellar— every hall optimized, every chamber illuminated.

And trust that that illumination will light up the world.

Ever present under the restless waves of your own mind and heart, there is a voice, a very special voice.

Often it is clouded by the dust of emotion, overthinking, and by the heat of instinct. But it is always there— like groundwater, like the blood in your veins.

I call this voice the Inner Knowing.

You will know this voice by its timbre: It is clear, steady, and quiet. It resonates with an effortless power.

Once you learn to tell it apart from that jangling choir of doubts and passions, desires and analysis, know that you can trust this voice. It knows what is for you in this life.

Learn first to hear it, then to trust it– and then follow its whisperings, no matter how wild they sound to you at first.

I have spent more than twenty-five years of my life refining this core insight. It is my North Star. I live this way— and I can teach you how to live this way too.

Together we will create a connection between you and your Inner Knowing. And I promise you: That voice is an unerring compass. It is awaiting its role to guide you on the amazing adventure that is your life.

If you’re ready to begin…

Can you feel it?

The world is shifting so fast— our global economy, our climate, even our health.

Where can we find the insight to respond optimally and optimistically in this era of radical flux? (Hint: In You!)

Now might be a particularly important time to consider an immersive experience that REALLY connects you with your Inner Knowing.

I curate customized, in-person, multi-day journeys with leaders ready to stand up, empowered — even now, especially now..

My clients transform:

  • To think bigger in their business enterprises, often bursting into higher strata of their chosen professions.
  • To evolve their relationships with their children and spouses into more refined harmony and connection.
  • To rewire thinking patterns, reprogram emotional responses, and access decisiveness.
  • And more!

If you want to send your life into high gear by improving your daily performance, deepening your sense of purpose, and beginning to realize the legacy you’ve imagined for yourself…
Then let’s go already!

What Some of my clients say

-Will Sacks

- Daniel P.

Simply put, I was lost before I starting working with Stefan. My career and my relationship weren’t where I wanted them to be, and I couldn’t figure out why. Stefan’s tools and techniques allowed me to create (and some would use the word “design”) my life how I wanted it to be. Within the same year of working with Stefan, I got engaged AND I am on a very quick path to my dream career. YOU can create the life you want. YOU can have the career, relationships, body, etc YOU want. All you have to do is have clarity on WHAT you want and WHO you want to be. Once you do that, every decision you make can put you on the path to living your dream life. Through Stefan’s coaching he will help YOU find that clarity and coach you towards your dreams. It’s that simple and effective.

-Will Sacks Founder, Kindara

I’ve worked with a lot of coaches in my life. I had various business coaches when I was running my business. I’ve worked with various personal coaches, therapists, leaders, helpers, healers. Stefan’s approach is one of the most powerful that I’ve ever experienced. He’s spent multiple decades bringing in elements of different modalities, and bringing in his incredible breadth of personal life experience to his work. I allowed Stefan to guide me into myself, so for that I feel incredibly grateful. I recommend that anybody who is looking for a deeper knowing of themself to engage with Stefan. He’s a magically powerful leader.

-Cory Glazier | MediMeals CEO

Working with Stefan was a game-changer for me and my partner. A world of relating opened up for me that had previously been concealed by my lack of awareness and communication skills. I loved how Stefan helped me to see what I was not seeing. From there, he supported me in relating in a deeper, more intimate, and curious way. It was confronting for me to be up against my edges, but I felt unconditional love from him as he skillfully supported us to relate in a more powerful way than ever before. Think of him kinda like a mediator, but not to resolve conflict, more to help each party gain access to the deep, vulnerable, true places in their partner.

-Dr. Joseph Barsuglia, Researcher

When my partner and I first met Stefan, we were at an impasse that seemed could only result in separation. In just the first session, Stefan skillfully and compassionately helped us tap into our intuition and desires to see a new path for our relationship. My partner and I were able to discover our deeper underlying needs through the mirror of his empathy and curiosity. The space he created allowed our love to evolve in new ways that transcended our fears and old patterns of relating. I am so grateful to have worked with him and cannot recommend his work highly enough.

-Sara Shaefer, Nutritionist

Stefan is a true angel, I can’t recommend him enough! He’s highly skilled in teaching you to strengthen the connection to your higher self, so that you can start living the life of your dreams! In a short time with Stefan, I’m already reprogramming my deeply patterned thinking that has been blocking my success. He’s a master of authenticity and compassion. If you want to learn how to be your true authentic and very best self, you absolutely cannot go wrong with Stefan’s direct, positively effective approach!

-Michelle Bouvier, Yoga teacher

Stefan is a master at coaching. I have experienced tremendous shifts in thought process-patterns I have run for years. The process of identifying different parts of our psyches that drive us provides tools to choose what ‘voices’ we listen to within. Stefan is a fantastic coach in his skill seeing the best in all, and guiding his clients into a perspective of growth, learning, improvement, and moving ever forward. I cannot recommend him enough.

“Imagine every angle of your life, from your laptop screen to your children’s eyes to the halls of the company you lead, lit up with new clarity and fierceness, and encircled in an ever-widening compassion.” – Stefan Grafstein

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