Risk & the Inner Knowing
I’ve always been a risk taker. I jumped out of a 2 story window around the time I started walking.
At eighteen, I had a falling out with my parents. I had just enough savings from my Bar Mitzvah to buy a car. So I packed up all I owned, and peeled out for college, ready to begin my own life.
A temperament like mine can get you into trouble sometimes. After a string of misadventures involving drugs, poor grades, big wave surfing, and crashing a convertible at 110 MPH, which I miraculously walked away from, I decided to get some help.
So, there I sat, a twenty-year-old wild man in front of a plainspoken woman of sixty, a psychiatrist.
I’ll never forget what she said to me.
“Stefan, you’re a risk-taker.” Her eyes were piercing, steady. “There may not be much we can do about that,” she went on. “But you must learn to take healthy risks.”
Those words went through me like thunder. All of a sudden, I knew exactly what I needed to do. In a very real way, my life began in that moment.
I took the same electric energy I’d been pouring into mere thrills, and started applying it to things that mattered. It started with surfing the biggest waves I could find… Surfing became my religion.
I then dedicated myself to overcoming an autoimmune disease related to anxiety via drilling down into myriad physical, mental, emotional and spiritual practices — yoga, therapy, psychedelic plant medicine ceremonies, meditation, and conscious dietary practices.
When my student loan deferment ended, I started a few businesses and dove into the world of high-stakes real estate foreclosure investment, swimming with sharks, outbidding double-dealers and big-shot tricksters. I made and lost substantial sums, and then did it all over again.
But ultimately, my Inner Knowing guided me to take the biggest risk of all: Forgo the money, and do something truly meaningful. I wanted to contribute, to pay forward all that I’d learned.
So, I walked away. I got a Masters in spiritual psychology, and have spent over a decade developing my own modalities and practices, which I now teach to my clients.
Along the way, there have been wicked hard knocks and electrifying victories, but I’ve arrived at some unshakable insights, which I have adapted into powerful tools. These are not just abstract mental exercises. They’re the real deal— they can and do reshape people’s actual lives for the better.
Join the many who have used them to grow psychologically, financially, sexually, relationally… As Goethe wrote, “If you can do something, or dream you can, begin it…”
I’m passionate about sharing these breakthroughs with those who are willing, and I recognize that to impact the world today can sometimes mean impacting the right leader…
Are you that leader?
My role as a coach is not to tell my clients what to do, or how to live.
I’m a mirror.
If you can see yourself— really see— then you might unfurl your true potential, which I believe is limitless.
So, we’re in this together. Side by side, and straight across.
Or as Ram Das put it, “We’re all just walking each other home.”